When you don’t live near each other, holidays and birthdays are hard. You can’t just give her a necklace, take her out for dinner, maybe see a play or musical if she’s into that, and go have sex on her birthday. For holidays, there’s the extra panic of making sure it fits with her personal traditions for that day. There are several options when it comes to gift giving and long distance relationships.
Date a Jehovah’s Witness
Jehovah’s Witnesses aren’t allowed to accept birthday or holiday gifts. This gets you completely off the hook. You never again have to buy a dozen red roses and a box of Godiva on February 13.
Find a Good Florist
Don’t rely on 1-800-FLOWERS or any of those places. Find a local florist with good reviews on Yelp. If you know any of her friends in the area, see if they’ll go to a couple of well-reviewed florists and see how good they actually are. Make sure to find out if the florist does deliveries. If you can find a good florist who delivers and has a good selection of bouquets, plus are willing to come up with something totally new, you’ve got one part down. Now, instead of a generic rose bouquet, you can get one made with her favorite colors and flowers, and it can be delivered straight to wherever she works or goes to school, already in a vase. Just make sure to include a card so she knows it’s from you.
Look for the Little Things
When you’re shopping for pretty much anything, you’re likely to go by shops that sell knickknacks. You don’t have to go into every one, but occasionally stop in and take a look around. You might find something cute that she loves, and it won’t even take much effort. Try having a theme for what you buy her so they all go together, such as all being animals or even a specific type of animal. Pay attention to what she likes when you talk, so you don’t get the wrong type of thing (like if she hates nesting dolls and you get her a set). The same goes for books: they’re not that big, they’re easy to ship, and you’re bound to be able to find one she hasn’t read and would like. If you know there’s something in particular that she wants, a collectible edition or something, keep an eye out. You just might find it.
Every So Often, Splurge
So you just had your annual review, and the bosses raved about you. Your raise is excellent, and you got a big bonus on top of that. It’s time to celebrate-but don’t forget your lady, who can’t celebrate with you. Give her something to mark the occasion. If she likes jewelry, consider a tennis bracelet. If she’s more into gaming, get her a state-of-the-art computer, tailored to her needs. If she’s a reader, get her that leather-bound Sherlock Holmes set.