“Don’t be so happy. She might be a fake”
You’ve been checking out dating sites for a couple of months now, and there’s just no girl who fits what you want. Maybe you’re looking for a pretty girl in hipster glasses who likes architecture and is into reading. Maybe your dream girl is a blonde bombshell working on her PhD. Maybe you just want some down-to-earth chick who’s also a mechanic. Whatever it is you’re looking for, you’re just not finding it, and the site’s supposed to be great.
Then one day, you get a notification from the site that they’ve found a match for you, or someone’s written you a message. You’re probably kind of wary; after all, you’ve talked to a dozen or more ladies in the time you’ve been on the site, and none of them are what you’re looking for. You check her out anyway, though, and it turns out she’s a librarian with a pretty face and hair that exact color you like. She’s almost too perfect for you to be real, and, as you talk to her and find out more and more, you have to wonder just how she hits so many of your “attraction” buttons. So you decide to look harder.
She’s Too Perfect to Be Real
Sure, she hits a lot of your likes and shares your dislikes, but plenty of girls can do at least some of that. It’s when she’s absolutely perfect, not a thing wrong, that you start to have issues. Take a look at the profile you’ve filled out and what the site says about you. Read over what you wrote and compare it to the messages you’ve been exchanging. If she matches every single thing you say you in your profile and exactly fits what the site says about you, then you probably have a fake on your hands.
Do Some Research
Sure, research is only fun to archivists and people like that, but it’s a necessary evil. In this case, it’s necessary to see if you’ve managed to attract a potential stalker. You’ve probably already Googled her, but look harder. Try TinEye.com to see if you can find the picture she’s using anywhere else. If she pops up under a different name and hasn’t mentioned a twin sister, she’s obviously not real. Head over to your favorite search engine and run some different things: her name and “arrest,” her name and the company she says she work for, her name in any online phone directory that shows locations. Any of those can be red flags.
“Ask her hobbies and other probing questions”
This is really one of the easiest ones. Pick something that has no relationship to anything you’ve said you like or dislike and try it out. For instance, say your dream is to travel the country in an RV with three cats and a gorgeous woman. If she says that’s her dream too, try something weirder, like you want to breed and sell chinchillas. When she agrees that your “dreams” are exactly hers, it’s time to end things.